Saturday, July 18, 2015

Finding "decent care"

Honestly, there are times I literally have wished for some very strong...I don't mean like aspirin or Tylenol...I MEAN Oxi plus! Diazepam. LOL

There have been moments when I could not help but wonder where does the "Home Services" find these caregivers?!

Let me give a few examples:

When we moved Paul back in 2012 into his new apartment, we needed to pack his things and clean the old apartment. The huge Trash receptacle for the entire apartment complex only had maybe three bags of garbage in it. Looking at probably about  4' wide, 4' high, and approx. 5' deep. One would think that there wasn't that much garbage in my brother's tiny one bedroom. WRONG!!!! We found so much that was NEVER thrown away and should have been such as newspapers, mags, plastic cups, Plastic containers of all kinds, out-dated food that should NEVER have been kept as some dated back to 2005!!!! Old tickets, old posters, clothes (that did not fit), tons of candy and pop cans. The dumpster was overflowing when we finished. All I could think about, while doing this was...who in their right mind would have kept any of this?! It honestly made "Hoarders" look like a show my brother's caregivers could easily go on and fit right in. Thankfully, those caregivers are long gone.

Another example that I questioned the hiring processes was when one of Paul's caregivers, a male, decided that it was perfectly ok to take Paul to the Mall for an activity. OK. Paul is not into shopping, it wears him out and he cannot get around so well. They went and just sat and watched people. How boring can you get?! With Paul's TBI, he needs mental stimulation and activities that help build his strength and endurance. That was about 6 or so years ago (maybe longer) and I made a conscious effort to get games, and come up with ideas of what are appropriate activities for an adult 40 year old male. I continue to do this as these caregivers have no imagination and without proper coaching and training they will never get my brother engaged in anything but the routine.

The best one has to be about 3 years ago. I noticed Paul was not doing well and seemed really depressed and out of sorts. That was when we brought in the lil sister to stay awhile and find out what was going on...or in this case what was NOT happening with Paul and his caregivers. We found out that yes Paul got a shower but no one helped him clean his backside...the are he cannot reach and take care of. He was covered in filth and his clothes stunk like urine and his shoes stunk like urine and he was missing clothes and his glasses. Seems that the home services was having one heck of a time with keeping caregivers and the ones they did get were not trained and honestly didn't know a thing of how to care for someone in Paul's situation. We fired them. Still considering a lawsuit.

As I look at what the Standley Foundation for TBI will be able to do for TBI persons and their families, one of the most apparent items is that there NEEDS to be a proper training program or curriculum developed for the Caregivers of TBI. It needs to cover everything from First Aid, to CPR, to house cleaning, working with and including the client and their family in day to day decisions, laundry, how to assist in the bathroom and shower, Activities that don't cost a lot of money (believe me there hasn't been one person I have met with a TBI that is independently wealthy), how to maximize their efficiency within the allotted time, menu planning, grocery shopping, transportation needs and concerns, conflict resolution and being a mediator rather than a dictator or slave.

I know there is a LOT to the training however, once  I have secured funding I am going to get the program/curriculum developed and offer it as an online/web course.

I also think that I may figure out a grant program so that these wonderful caregivers, who are truly amazing (like the ones Paul has currently and some of his from the past), can be subsidized monetarily, which will bring their living wage up to around $20. (A just amount for what they are expected to do) Right now they are lucky to get $10-$12, and that is a high estimation. I know currently, Paul's Case Manager, and several others went to Helena, to talk about the inadequate wage and expectations and funding for these precious services who provide those needing extra care a life all their own. I hope when they go again that I am asked to join as I have a lot to discuss with our congressional leaders and how they spend our tax dollars.

Ok will get off my soap box for now.


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